Death, taxes, breakups. They’re all inevitable. It’s a human rite of passage to have your heart blown to pieces by another person – usually a person who, once upon a time, you thought was the absolute greatest thing in the entire universe. But now it’s over, and it sucks. Shit happens.
It doesn’t matter if you did the dumping or you were dumped – the general feeling of terribleness may follow you around for quite awhile. Thankfully, music can assist with the healing process and help you work through those emotions, let out any anger and eventually move the hell on. I’ve put together a playlist to let you cry it out at the beginning and ultimately rise from the ashes like the majestic phoenix of perfection that you are.
There are many stages to post-breakup ~*fEeLiNgS*~ so let’s start at the beginning:
Stage One: Freshly Dumped – No One Cheated
Stage One sans infidelity is characterized by lots and lots of sadness. Everything reminds you of your former boo. You’re probably going through infinite amounts of ice cream, wine and Kleenex so turn on this song (or watch the video if you want to cry along with Sinead) and let it all out:
Nothing Compares 2 U – Sinead O’Connor
Stage One – Part One: Freshly Dumped – That Asshole Cheated
Stage One with infidelity thrown in is a whole other animal. How? What? Why? But? Her? Him? You may still be in shock and trying to process what the hell just happened. Enter Mary J. Blige:
Not Gon Cry – Mary J. Blige
Mary is here to remind you not to cry – don’t give that jerk the satisfaction of your tears. You’re fabulous. Keep it movin’.
Stage One – Part Two: That Asshole Cheated – Anger Edition
You’ve had some time to think about this whole mess and wow, are you mad. You’re seeing red. “Pissed” doesn’t quite do your feelings justice. You want to bust the windows out of his damn car.
Now I don’t suggest going out and actually committing said crime (although it would feel soooo good). Instead, crank up these jams:
Bust Your Windows – Jazmine Sullivan
It’s Not Right, But It’s Okay – Whitney Houston
Stage Two – Wallowing and Acceptance
Well, everything still sucks, but not as much. You’ve come to terms with the fact that the relationship is over and you’re feeling a bit blah and numb. This is the laid-back wallow stage where you process what went wrong and hopefully learn from the relationship. Stage Two music is softer, quieter, more introspective. This stage might also last you a good bit of time so I’ll give you two songs to help you through:
Almost Doesn’t Count – Brandy
Head back to the late 90s with Brandy, or head back even later to 1965 and let Johnny Cash express your feels:
Don’t Think Twice, It’s Alright – Johnny Cash
Stage Three – Back and Better Than Ever
You’ve had time to be sad, angry and numb. And you know what? You’re good now. No, you’re great. Awesome. You’re ready to get back on the proverbial horse and show yourself off to the world.
But first – some music to get your mind right and prepare you for re-entrance to the dating scene.
Migrate – Mariah Carey
Freakum Dress – Beyonce
How To Be A Heartbreaker – Marina and the Diamonds
Miss Movin’ On – Fifth Harmony
You did it! You survived the breakup. Now get back out there so you can do it all over again.